Thursday, June 25, 2020

Breaking Stereotypes: Macho Men in Ballet




Male ballet dancers are stereotyped as gay, effeminate, and wimpy.  As someone who has dated a male ballet dancer, those impressions couldn’t be farther from the truth.  In ballet, men are strong, lift women by the hips, and are not necessarily gay.  Outside the theater, if a man attempted these moves, he would be peppermaced, arrested, or both.  Here are three examples that break the stereotype.


1.  Alexander Godunov - He was one of Hans Gruber’s terrorists in Die Hard.  He’s hard to miss with his long, blonde hair.  Before becoming an action villain, he did Classical Ballet in Russia.  He started studying ballet at age 9.  He was married to another ballerina, Lyudmila, for 11 years and divorced in 1982.  Unfortunately, this dancing actor passed away in 1995.

This is just one of Godunov’s videos:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qgyNRI9BRJc


2.  Colt Prattes – He played Pink’s lover in the music video, Try.  In ballet, the male dancer needs to physically balance the ballerina.  A short man is not paired with a tall woman, or vice-versa.  Pink has a broad frame, so she needed a larger, more muscular ballerino to play opposite to her role.  Prattes is a teacher in the Broadway Dance Center in New York.  He also starred in Dirty Dancing – not the original, the remake that everyone complains about.

Here’s more information on Prattes:  http://www.broadwaydancecenter.com/faculty/colt-prattes


3.  Steve McLendon – This 320lb athlete has played football for the Pittsburgh Steelers and the New York Jets.  He started ballet in his senior year at Troy University.  He says ballet is harder than anything else he does.


The rest of the information I gathered was from Internet Movie Database (IMDb).  This was a happy, short research project.

Wednesday, June 17, 2020

The Tilting Roles of Sexism Over Time




            Since 2000, I have noticed that men are expected to limit themselves from a number of activities for fear of looking “gay” or being called a “pussy.”  Singing, dancing, theater, Dance Dance Revolution, or not liking sports enough pins a guy as being less masculine.  I had a friend whose abusive legal guardian thought Sci-Fi was unmanly.  I had an ex-boyfriend who was afraid to play DDR, because it looked “gay.”  In decades past, depending on where you lived, dressing punk or goth was considered feminine for a guy, or “faggy.”  Writing poetry, doing yoga, eating chocolate?  Oh no, that’s gay.  Dressing nice or liking Broadway?  Being a nerd or dressing up for an anime convention or Renaissance faire?  O no, we can’t have that.  If a guy is a virgin?  Must be gay! –Or he’s not a “real man” yet.  He doesn’t spend every minute of his day talking about sex and boobs?  Gay.  He’s not an ESPN couch potato?  What a strange, queer fellow!  Selecting the wrong alcoholic beverage would put his sexual orientation in question.  I don’t agree with any of this fear mongering rubbish!  Homophobia inhibits straight men from expressing themselves too.

Men used to be the ones who could do anything, and women had to fight for the right to do anything.  Not too long ago, men got jobs, and women were expected to just get married and have children.  Men were allowed to write books, invent things, get higher degrees, become firefighters, etc.  Women were expected to stay home and shut up.  That was prior to 1970.  In Shakespearean times, only men were allowed to be actors.  For centuries, women were expected not to sing in church.  Only men could sing.*  Now, singing and acting are considered emasculating and stereotyped as “gay.”

            In the 1980s and 90s, a girl was considered a tomboy if she played sports or rode a skateboard.  Gender roles in our childhoods were split clearly with a thick line of pink and purple tape.  There were girly cartoons like Rainbow Brite and My Little Pony, and cartoons marketed to boys like GI Joe and Transformers.  Girls had Barbie, and boys had Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle action figures.  (I wanted a TMNT toy.)  Girls could paint their nails, and boys could play rough at sports.  Somewhere in my teens, someone wrote about the differences between engendered video games.  I remember reading, “Boys’ video games are about saving the world, while girls’ games are about buying a pair of shoes.”

            It’s the 21st century, and women have come a long way.  It is not unusual for a woman to become a doctor or lawyer.  There may not be as many women in congress or female CEOs, but it’s no longer alarming.  Women still have a ways to go.  Though, look at men.  Men live in fear of being gay or seeming effeminate.  It used to be that men could do anything, and women had fewer options.  Now women can take up any hobby or job without the threat of social rejection or even doubt, while men have to look both ways before doing anything petty but questionable to their testosterone levels.  This is sad, because men aren’t allowed to like as many things as women.  It’s considered womanly to like all this great stuff, whether it’s trampoline aerobics or anything hygienic.  Heck, for awhile health food was considered a woman’s obsession.  I remember Dan Marino saying in a Nutrisystem commercial, “I can eat like a man.”  Taking care of yourself should not be a gender role. 

            Men shouldn’t have to watch their backs when they engage in their guilty (but not wrong or illegal) pleasures as if they were women watching their backs for a stalker at night.


Originally a Facebook Note posted:  June 7, 2015
Updated: May 22, 2020; June 17, 2020


*Wijngaards Institute for Catholic Research (2014).  Women and girls were not allowed to be singers in church.  [Website].  Retrieved from:  http://www.womenpriests.org/traditio/singers.asp

Note:  Another interesting yet sad fact from Wijngaards’s timeline is that people were so desperate not to have female choir members that they castrated boys to maintain their falsetto vocals.  If they accepted girls, the boys could have been spared.

Saturday, June 13, 2020

Racial Ice Breakers in Film





            After George Floyd’s murder, seeing the reality of racism is unavoidable.  The list of African Americans killed by police has grown too long.  Dozens of cellphone recordings of police brutality have pervaded the internet.  White people are recognizing privilege in the sense of safety – that cops aren’t nearly as threatening towards them.  There may be more or less racial tension due to white shame.  Though there is an opportunity to unite.  We agree there is a problem, and the problem is difficult to talk about.  Racism is an issue that needs to be addressed, and maybe sitting down friends of different races and watching some movies would break the ice. 

            Here are ten movies that confront the topic of racism and racial tension.  There are plenty of POC marketed comedies, but they are just funny and not addressing inequality.  There are serious dramas like “The Hate U Give,” “12 Years a Slave,” “Roots,” “and “BlacKkKlansman,” which give insight into African American lives and their history.  Though, this list focuses on black and white people uniting and working together as main characters in the stories.


1.  White Man’s Burden (1995).  This social science fiction movie speculates on what would happen if socioeconomic inequality were racially flipped.  Black people are the aristocrats and poor people are all white.

2.  Freedom Writers (2007).  A teacher opens up to learning about the lives of her inner city students, and she opens their minds to learning about the Holocaust.  The subject of history takes on a new meaning in journaling their personal histories, while learning about historical oppression.  The students grow closer to their teacher, and the teacher learns to earn respect first.

3.  The Help (2011).  A Mississippi journalist interviews housekeepers during the 1960s.  Racism is rampant, and the Caucasian writer gives three black women a voice despite discouraging social pressures.  If you love the movie, read the book it’s based on.

4.  Remember the Titans (2000).  A high school football team is racially integrated, and the coaches bring the teammates together to get to know one another.  The movie addresses racism, homophobia, and differences in gender expression between the coaches’ daughters.

5.  The Color of Friendship (2000).  A racist white girl from South Africa becomes a foreign exchange student with an African American host family.  Shock is on both sides, but the racist girl eventually learns to love this family and changes her views.  This Disney movie boldly confronts racism.

6.  Save the Last Dance (2001).  This movie is more than a ballerina learning hip hop.  There is racial tension, social mores, and transitional differences between urban lifestyles and the suburbs where Julia Stiles’s character came from.  It also addresses different racial viewpoints.

7.  The Blind Side (2009).  Based on a true story, a white family takes in a high school aged black boy.  The suburban school administrators aren’t as welcoming, but the new adoptive mother was determined to help change their views.  The boy, Michael, deals with the racial homogeny of his present school environment and flashbacks of his childhood.  However from his difficult past he had developed survival skills no one else had.

8.  Amos and Andrew (1993).  A wealthy black man is mistaken for a burglar in his own home, and the police try to cover their racism by hiring a white ex-convict to take him hostage.  The two become closer, and they learn about their racist neighbors’ personal lives.

9.  Die Hard with a Vengeance (Die Hard 3) (1995).  The death defying cop played by Bruce Willis teams up with Samuel L Jackson’s no-nonsense character to catch a riddling terrorist.  Racial stereotypes are defied in this film.

10.  Bringing Down the House (2003).  A divorced, white, upper-crusty lawyer finds out his online girlfriend is black upon meeting, and she needed legal help since she was falsely accused of a crime.  The movie addresses overt racism from neighbors and the lawyer’s evil sister in-law.  The film also deals with sexism and socioeconomic stereotypes being unraveled.


Monday, June 8, 2020

My Thoughts on George Floyd’s Murder, Rioting, and the Route to Justice




What Ex-Officer Derek Chauvin did to George Floyd was a sadistic, heartless murder in the name of hate.  Uninhibited by cellphones recording, Chauvin continued to suppress Floyd’s trachea with his knee.  Floyd was unarmed and already handcuffed – on the ground.  No more restraining was necessary.  The objective was to get Floyd into the police car – not on the ground – much less killed! 

Chauvin had a history of abusing minorities.  Only two out of the 18 complaints against the former officer had resulted in disciplinary action. (CNN)  Chauvin probably thought he was going to just get away with police brutality again.  With millions in lockdown, he probably thought people wouldn’t riot during a pandemic.  If I read his twisted mind right, then the current reading is that he found out he was wrong.

I’m against both police brutality and the riots that followed, because the violent protesters are punishing the wrong people.  Small restaurants and Mom and Pop shops are not responsible for Floyd’s murder or the systemic racism associated with it.  Low income communities are impacted by the destruction. (D. Barnes)  The convenience and grocery stores in the city may be all they have – plus during a pandemic when resources are scarce.  Some businesses destroyed were run by minorities. (Univision)  The violence is mischanneled anger.

I understand the motives for the riots.  Peaceful protest wasn’t working in recent years, and the most famous example was football players kneeling during the national anthem.  Who could stand for “liberty and justice for all,” if the word, All, did not include you?  With anyone at risk for the next police murder, and peaceful protests being unheeded, the urge to be destructive is understandable.  It was justified desperation.  I don’t like it, but it impacted political figures who also didn’t like it – and took action.  The officers involved are now all charged, and Chauvin went from being just terminated to being charged with second degree murder.  Now we have “BLACK LIVES MATTER” on the road leading to the White House large enough to be seen from outer space. (The Guardian)  Those astronauts who just left Earth a few days ago can see it now.

Ever since Michael Brown’s death in Ferguson, Missouri, I’ve had an idea that I wish to share now.  African American communities should come together, and organize themselves to create political change at the state and federal level.  They should choose their wisest, most qualified people to run for office and pass laws to make the country a better place.  Moreover, I believe police agencies should connect with their communities, and talk with people.  They should get to know the people in their jurisdictions, and then neighborhoods would be positively bonding with the police.  There would be less hatred if people knew one another.




References:
Andrew, S (2020 Jun 1).  Derek Chauvin:  What we know about the former officer charged in George Floyd’s death.  CNN.  Retrieved from:  https://www.cnn.com/2020/06/01/us/derek-chauvin-what-we-know-trnd/index.html

Aratani, L (2020 Jun 6).  Washington mayor stands up to Trump and unveils Black Lives Matter mural.  The Guardian.  Retrieved from:  https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/jun/06/washington-mayor-muriel-bowser-trump?fbclid=IwAR2xF8Q9EshBAfau20D9X_DRvmj84lQHZTOzBavAyTQN_U0RlwhI147QP8s

Now This Politics (2020 Jun 2).  NYC Woman on Destroying Property in Low Income Neighborhoods.  [Video].  Featured protester:  Desiree Barnes.  Retrieved from:  https://www.facebook.com/NowThisPolitics/videos/1209961062679819/UzpfSTEwMDAwMDI3MTYwNTQ1MTozMjE0MDUxNTMxOTQ3MjAy/?q=voice&epa=SEARCH_BOX

Univision News (2020 Jun 4).  Looting destroys businesses already affected by coronavirus.  [Video].  Retrieved from:  https://www.facebook.com/watch/?ref=search&v=598309510818445&external_log_id=82ea680cd683e7f79c30b1aeacf76ce9&q=businesses%20affected%20by%20riots


Header Photo:  Courtesy of The Verge.

Ricker, T (2020 Jun 8).  Apple Maps updated with a giant Black Lives Matter DC mural.  The Verge.  Retrieved from:  https://www.theverge.com/2020/6/8/21283744/black-lives-matter-satelliite-apple-maps